Living as a Christian: top 25 questions for young adult men

A godly man follows Jesus: he loves God, serves others, keeps his word and takes responsibility. Strength is shown in self-control and sacrificial love, not dominance. Christ is the model.

“Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong. Let all your things be done with charity.”1 Corinthians 16:13-14 (KJV)

Try this: Pick one area of life to take responsibility for this month.

Pass it on: Ask an older man to mentor you.

Start with what God has already called you to: faithfulness where you are. Look at your gifts, needs around you and counsel from others. Vocation includes work, family, church and community.

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;”Colossians 3:23 (KJV)

Try this: Write down your gifts and ask three people what they see in you.

Pass it on: Mentor someone younger in a skill you have.

Porn is a real battle for many men, and you're not alone. Bring it into the light: confess, use accountability and filters, and change habits. Christ forgives completely and gives strength to fight.

“But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”Matthew 5:28 (KJV)

Try this: Install a filter and tell a trusted friend today.

Pass it on: Be an accountability partner for another man.

Everything belongs to God; we are stewards. Give first, save, avoid debt and live within your means. Generosity breaks money's grip.

“Honour the Lord with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase:”Proverbs 3:9 (KJV)

Try this: Write a simple monthly budget.

Pass it on: Teach a younger guy how to budget.

There's no perfect age, but marriage requires maturity, faith and commitment. Become the kind of man a godly woman would want to marry. Seek counsel and pray.

“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.”Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)

Try this: Ask a married couple what prepared them for marriage.

Pass it on: Encourage a friend in a healthy relationship.

Lead with clarity, respect and purity. Be clear about your intentions and protect her heart and honor. Involve wise people around you.

“Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren; The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.”1 Timothy 5:1-2 (KJV)

Try this: Plan a date that's honoring and intentional.

Pass it on: Model respect for women among your friends.

Anger isn't always sin, but it easily turns into sin. Slow down, name what's underneath, and talk to God. Seek help if it's hurting others.

“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”James 1:19-20 (KJV)

Try this: When angry, wait 24 hours before a big reply.

Pass it on: Help a friend talk through a conflict.

Men need deep friendships. Be intentional: show up, ask real questions, share honestly. Church and service are great places to make brothers.

“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.”Proverbs 27:17 (KJV)

Try this: Invite a friend for coffee and ask how he's really doing.

Pass it on: Start a small men's Bible study.

Many young adults drift after leaving home. Join a church quickly, join a small group and serve. Don't wait to feel connected; commit.

“And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”Hebrews 10:24-25 (KJV)

Try this: Visit a church this Sunday and stay for coffee.

Pass it on: Invite a coworker to come with you.

Prayer is a discipline before it's a feeling. Start small and pray the Psalms or the Lord's Prayer. God hears even weak prayers.

“And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;”Luke 18:1 (KJV)

Try this: Set a daily 5-minute prayer alarm.

Pass it on: Ask a friend how you can pray for him.

Work is a gift and a calling from God, not just a paycheck. Work hard and honestly, as for the Lord. Your job isn't your identity.

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.”Colossians 3:23-24 (KJV)

Try this: Pray for your coworkers by name.

Pass it on: Be the honest, encouraging one at work.

Failure is part of growing. God uses broken people: Peter, David, Moses. Confess it, receive His forgiveness, and learn from it.

“For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief.”Proverbs 24:16 (KJV)

Try this: Write down what you learned from a recent failure.

Pass it on: Encourage a friend who just failed.

Loneliness is common, even among believers. Reach out first, join a group, and serve. God sets the solitary in families, including the church family.

“God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.”Psalm 68:6 (KJV)

Try this: Invite someone to dinner this week.

Pass it on: Notice the lonely guy at church and say hello.

Games and screens aren't evil but can steal time and focus. Set limits and prioritize relationships, rest and growth. Ask if it's mastering you.

“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.”1 Corinthians 6:12 (KJV)

Try this: Track your screen time this week.

Pass it on: Invite a friend to do something outdoors.

Consistency beats intensity. A short daily reading with prayer adds up. Use audio Bibles on your commute.

“Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.”Psalm 1:1-2 (KJV)

Try this: Listen to a chapter on your commute.

Pass it on: Start a reading plan with a friend.

Your body is God's gift. Sleep, exercise and eat well to serve Him and others well. Avoid making fitness an idol.

“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (KJV)

Try this: Set one realistic health goal.

Pass it on: Work out with a friend.

Grow in character now: patience, self-control, faithfulness. Watch good fathers and ask questions. Serve kids at church.

“Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.”Psalm 127:3 (KJV)

Try this: Volunteer with kids or youth.

Pass it on: Thank your father or a father figure.

Decide ahead of time to be honest and pure. Avoid compromising situations. Remember God sees and provides a way out.

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”1 Corinthians 10:13 (KJV)

Try this: Set one boundary at work this week.

Pass it on: Encourage integrity in your team.

God's door is open. The prodigal son's father ran to meet him. Come back to God's Word and church; it's never too late.

“And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him.”Luke 15:20 (KJV)

Try this: Go to church this Sunday.

Pass it on: Reach out to a friend who has drifted.

Live with integrity, care for coworkers and be ready to explain your hope. Natural conversations beat sales pitches. Pray for opportunities.

“But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:”1 Peter 3:15 (KJV)

Try this: Pray for one coworker by name daily.

Pass it on: Offer to pray for a struggling coworker.

Listen first, respond with gentleness and respect. Learn the basics of why Christians believe. You don't need to win every argument.

“Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”Colossians 4:6 (KJV)

Try this: Read a short apologetics book.

Pass it on: Discuss a tough question with a friend.

Jesus says not to worry about tomorrow. Plan wisely but trust God. Talk to someone if anxiety is heavy.

“Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”Matthew 6:34 (KJV)

Try this: Write down worries and pray over each.

Pass it on: Encourage a friend who is anxious.

Biblical manhood is about courage, protection, provision and humility, all modeled by Christ. It's not about stereotypes. Serve like Jesus.

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)

Try this: Do something sacrificial for someone this week.

Pass it on: Model servant leadership for younger guys.

Ask your pastor where help is needed. Use your skills: setup, tech, teaching, ushering. Serving builds belonging.

“As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.”1 Peter 4:10 (KJV)

Try this: Sign up for one serving role.

Pass it on: Invite a friend to serve with you.

Salvation rests on Christ's work, not your feelings or your choice. God put His name on you in Baptism, speaks forgiveness in His Word, and gives Christ's body and blood in the Supper. Those are promises for you.

“These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.”1 John 5:13 (KJV)

Try this: Memorize 1 John 5:13.

Pass it on: Share this assurance with a doubting friend.